44. Coming to Meet
Judgment
Coming to Meet — the woman is strong. Do not marry such a woman. An unexpected encounter that demands discernment.
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Wind beneath heaven — the ruler distributes blessings and reaches through to the people.
Changing Lines
Tied to a metal spur — firm restraint. Walking brings misfortune. A lean pig acts restless.
There is a fish in the wrapping — no blame. The encounter cannot reach the guests.
No skin on the thighs — walking with difficulty. Danger but no great blame.
The fish wrapped in a basket — the encounter reaches the guest. Good fortune.
Melon wrapped in willow leaves — containing beautiful lines. Hidden brilliance.
Coming to meet with horns — humiliation through force. No lasting blame.
Reading Coming to Meet today
When Coming to Meet (姤) appears in a modern casting, it's rarely about ancient kings or dragons in any literal sense. The hexagram speaks in metaphor about a shape your situation is taking right now. The lower gentle wind sits beneath the upper creative heaven, pairing penetrating influence, slow persistence, gradual change with tireless force, initiative, the will to begin. Read this as the inside meeting the outside: how you carry yourself underneath versus how the situation arrives on top.
The hexagram's recurring themes — encounter, meeting, attraction — usually surface in real life around decisions where the question is less "what should I do" and more "what does this moment actually want from me." Read the Legge judgment above slowly, then sit with the changing lines if any showed up in your cast: the lines are where the hexagram's advice becomes specific to your question, not the situation in general.
Questions Coming to Meet answers well
- What does this hexagram say about my current situation?
- Should I act, wait, or step back from this?
- Where is the real change happening underneath the surface?
- Who or what is this hexagram pointing me toward?
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